Will the real men please stand up
|December 29, 2012||Posted by Hajra under Horror, Trouble, Women|
On the morning of 17th December 2012, I woke up to news of a horrendous crime done yet again. A rape case in Delhi. I have lived in the city for a year, studied there, worked there and a lot of people have telling me to write about it on my blog. So finally, I do it. Just hours after the victim breathed her last.
A 23 year old girl and her male friend were returning from the movies. They boarded a bus and little did they know that the bus was stolen and the five passengers in the bus were friends of the driver. What followed was assault of the victim, her friend, her being gang raped, being hit multiple times with a metal rod; all this while driving through the city and then being dumped.
The lady suffered several injuries, her intestines had to be removed and breath her last a few hours ago.
Delhi is described as India’s rape capital. But it isn’t only about the city. It is about doing something so horrible and getting away with it. Its about security, about safety and about humanity.
It isn’t the first time a girl has been raped, not at least the first time in Delhi. The city reported over 24,000 rape incidents just last year. Only one person out of those thousand accused of rape was charged. Wait, the horror isn’t over. A lot more than 24,000 cases have not been reported – out of shame, out of lack of faith in justice, out of lack of support from family and out of sheer fear of the police.
But what followed was a public outrage so tremendous that it jolted the whole nation. The public wants a speedy trial and a strict punishment. Not just strict, very strict.
And while the country battled for stricter laws and better police forces, the horror continued.
In the very same city that stood up for justice and people thronged for protests, another lady was gang raped and dumped on the streets of Delhi just after Christmas.
And in Punjab, a 17 year old gang rape victim, committed suicide after the police pressured her to marry one of her attackers.
Are you we losing it?
I don’t know who not to blame. The men involved in such dreadful acts need to be put behind bars for life – and life means forever and ever.
But what about the police involved. And people who question the victim saying that she shouldn’t have been on the road at 10 PM, that she shouldn’t have worn clothes that “lead” to such offences, that it was her fault to some extent.
Are we the problem?
We are in one way. We tell the woman “how not to get raped”. Why don’t we tell the men “don’t rape”. Wait, why don’t some of the men know it already. Don’t we all like living in a world where we can step out at any time of the day (or night) and be sure that we don’t get raped and beaten to death. Without having to carry Swiss army knives, pepper sprays and other ways to “protect” ourselves.
I end the year saying a silent prayer for women out there who fear men, who have fought against men for respect, who have been assaulted, who have been raped, who have been beaten to death, who have been questioned for the way they dress, who have felt unsafe stepping out of the house alone and for those who didn’t get a chance to raise their voice against all the atrocities.
Here’s hoping 2013 will be a little less evil.