OK...now i got it...only celebrities are in-between your coughs...it is Tom Hanks here and then there was @bdorman264 Bill in your next article:-)...when will it be me.......what should I do...i know what..i will start stalking you on FB & Twitter :-)
oh...forgot...good read !!!!!
Weird people are a part of life. I really know no "normal" people but people who behave inappropriately and spam others are RUDE and ignorant not weird. No poking here either
@RobertaBudvietas I hate pokers. I wonder who created that button and why?
@Hajra @RobertaBudvietas Lord, people... get over it. Facebook was created by Harvard students to be an online ... well, not what it's morphed into, exactly. Hajra's probably too young to remember the great hew and cry over grown-ups (particularly - ugh! - parents!) joining. Or to it even going public, for that matter. The "poke" button is an ebullient way to capture someone's attention...
Then again, it probably originated as something far baser and less ebullient - like "I wanna poke you - how's 'bout it?" like a drunken 3 AM booty call from a randy sophomore.
I don't get all the social stuff yet, but I was warned about checking people out and blocking them. So like on Twitter they sound great like mother, etc. and I go to see and find porn. Or if someone has never had any or very few tweets they are blocked, don't need any association with weird people. I have seen some really good businesses following people that are in the porn business. I think they need to get a new social media person in charge!
@Mary Stephenson I wasn't warned. I thought everyone is sensible on social media. Looks like I was wrong! :)
About accounts being messed up, a lot of people do need a different person in charge. I love a magazine, and recently saw that they follow a lot of spammy people on Twitter. Sent them a message! Social media can get out of control!
Thanks for stopping by!
Hi Hajra, Wow, that is weird. I hope I made the cut. I'm a bit weird myself, but in an interesting, not a creepy way.
I do vet the people that creep me out, but I don't make cuts otherwise. I might block people if they have posts that are annoying though.
@wonderoftech If you are not creepy, it is fine! :)
As for people sharing weirdly creppy stuff, time to say good bye!
I periodically clean my Facebook friend list, but I don't have to do so as often anymore. I finally became wise to the numbers game. I prefer to be friends with actual people not with people I'm supposed to know because we have mutual friends. I do the same on all the other social networks, although, like you, I have my one celebrity... :D
@Erin F. I did it once and it is tiring! I am so particular about requests I am approving. If I can't recall, then I just leave it there for a while and see if I can try to figure out in a few days.
Just one celebrity... we are the least obsessive! :)
Omigoodness, I so did this recently and continue to do so, especially on Facebook. When I started really getting into social media, I befriended absolutely everyone that reached out and now I'm in the opposite phase of valuing the people who are really important to me. Quality over quantity, as Adrienne mentioned! =)
@Samantha Bangayan I did the same too. Kind of like adding random people just because they had blogger written somewhere on their profile!
Nude babies--cute, but not let's-post-this-on-Facebook-cute. The ones that get me are people who have been married for years and post their wedding pic as their profile. I don't know why, I just find it odd. Maybe because it seems so in your face like, "Look at us. We really are a happy couple..."
I still don't know what a "poke" is...:P.
@LindaEsposito I still have a photo from my friend's wedding as my profile pic - and it has been over six months! :) Maybe all of us have different parameters as to what makes for good profile picture and what doesn't!
I don't understand pokes either!
I've seen baby mother pictures on Facebook, which are really adorable, and which just wanted to share their joy to their friends. I guess each mother should know what is appropriate and what is inappropriate to share.
I don't see much point of Google+, I got active only during the recent contest. :D :D :D
Twitter - I use to connect quickly, get updates, and advertise my links. Likewise with Facebook. But I find FB more useufl because it is here where I met again my bff from 30 years back. I was able to meet also distant relatives as far as Canada, and the Middle East.
I have weird friends too, especially on Twitter, and I had blocked them right away. :D
@JenaIsle I like mother baby photos, cute baby photos and all that. But there has to be a limit to what you are sharing - nude pictures definitely fall on the other side of that limit!
I am not so active on all the social media sites. Just what I can handle and understand!
Congrats on winning the contest! Any plans with the money?
As one comedy writer put it, "Poking initiates a cycle wherein one person pokes the other and one pokes back and you keep poking and poking back until you both become stupider as a result." (It was something like that.)
I have never poked anyone on Facebook. I'm not even on FB anymore. Too much noise, you know? And the games. OH, THE GAMES. All those game-related status updates. Seriously, why should anyone care that you've adopted a green martian cow? How is that relevant to anyone? Also, it was hard to start an intelligent discussion of any sort.
I don't really "get" G+ either. I've got hundreds of people following me who NEVER interact with me, have never bothered to say anything to me and I have no idea who they are or why they might be interested in me. What's the point? What are they doing over there? Normal people are weird. My working hypothesis is that we're all weird but blind to our own weirdness. After all, if you told a 15th-century Samurai that you bought a non-existent gift with your credit card (virtual money) for a friend you've never met in person, he'd be sorely tempted to a) run from you in sheer terror because you're a gibberish-speaking demon; or b) cut you in half with his sword because you're a gibberish-speaking demon. In either case, threat averted.
@StartYourNovel You do know there's a really easy way to block all friends' game-related notifications, as well as a way to block all games, right? It's too bad you didn't find that before deciding Facebook was such a wasteland. You're right, though. You're all demons. I must be possessed. Must make a mental note to steer clear of 15th century Samurai.
@StartYourNovel I have heard a similar poke quote, but I like poking (only close friends) and that's what we do. See who runs out of the stupidity stamina first.
I still like FB, helps me connect to a lot of people who moved away after school and I still manage to have meaningful conversations with them when I meet them. But there is more noise, I would agree.
Absolutely no one (and I mean no one) has sent me a meaningful message on G+, I really don't know what the hype was all about. And surprise, I love Google products.
We all are weird... but how much is weird? ;)
Hahaha ;) People are weird, one way or another (some people are much more weirder). I am very strict with accepting friend request via FB (the only time I accept people I actually don't know much about is when I get requests from bloggers. I accept those friend requests on the hopes of building a good relationship with the particular blogger, but I haven't done that at all).
I think I might need to clear up a bit, or maybe message these guys and actually make that relationship ;)
Twitter and G+? I have a lot of unknown people circling me on G+; not sure how they know me though, maybe through my guest posts, but I haven't seen any of those guys at my blog.
Twitter? Yeah, I have a few unknowns, but most of them are people I personally know (thanks to myself for giving up the idea of automated followers and starting a new account!).
Anyways, interesting post, Hajra :)
@Jeevanjacobjohn I wasn't so particular earlier, but I know I am now. I make sure I know people before I accept the request. A 100 mutual friends and it still doesn't make a difference if the name doesn't ring a bell!
As for bloggers, I make sure I visit their blogs first, get to know them like that and then see whether I want them as my FB friends!
A lot of people have me on their G+ circles too, but it still doesn't make sense. I have absolutely no idea who they are, nor do I see them on my blog, I wonder how they know me!
Thanks for stopping by! Up with your new blog as yet?
Hajra, that sounds like my cousin. For some reason, she thinks taking pictures of her kids or grandkids now when they are nude is the cutest thing ever. I bet her children and grandchildren will hate her guts later when they find out what she did and spread it all over the net.
I use to add people to my social profiles just because I thought I was suppose to have a big list. I learned later on that was a huge mistake and probably sometime last year I started cleaning them out. Oh yeah, got under 1,000 and now only add people who reach out to me to make that connection. Yes, it's someone I've met online or has something to do with my business. I know you're only here for personal reasons but for the rest of us we're trying to make as many new connections as we can.
But, I still believe that it's quality over quantity any given day. I say get rid of those who are only here to sell their services and let someone else friend them. You go girl.
@AdrienneSmith Your cousin might have a lot of explanation to do when those kids grow up and are totally embarrassed by those shots! I hope she isn't posting them anywhere!
I fell into the number trap too earlier, glad I am out of it. Having too many and having value is too different things some times! Thanks so much for stopping by! You always make the conversation so much more fun! :)
I think i'd do exactly the same if I started seeing nude pictures on my stream. It's illegal to do that in the UK and it's wrong wherever you're from.
I keep a keen eye on who I add as a friend, follow or add on G+ I only want people that share an interest. But I think I'll find plenty that go against my thinking. I do tend to look at mutual friends and take it (automatically) that we have things in common, especially on FB.
I'll keep an eye on that from now on :)
Thanks Hajra, take care.
@barry_wells I think it is illegal anywhere! And even if it isn't (which I assume I might be wrong about), it is just not right. I wonder why people don't get that!
I have a lot of people adding me on G+ and it doesn't make sense because I hardly know them! I don't follow into the mutual friend trap anymore. A lot of times I don't have any idea who the person is despite having over 50 mutual friends!
Thanks for stopping by!
You are right, sometimes Facebook friends share a little bit too much (That's actually an understatement...). That said, most of the time I don't mind. I think that it comes with the territory of social media...I un-friend when it becomes too much!
@JSJ2020 Too much! And somethings which are totally not meant for the world to see! I sometimes don't know whether I am supposed to react to status updates or not; especially when people are updating by the minute!
Sorry, missed you again this time. Was in Abu Dhabi and stuck with a few personal issues! :( Hope you had a great time!
Such a fun post Hajra. I think we've all experienced this Facebook weirdness. I try not to approve friends I don't know, though I do have weird ones that I haven't talked since high-school or we had only said "hi" to each other back then (I manage to recognize them even now haha). I treat FB as a private social media, where I'm trying to keep only few that I don't know, but I find interesting. As for Twitter, I use it mostly for connecting with people that share my interests - writing, blogging etc. and thank God my friends don't use Twitter, so I can separate these two.
@sophiesignin I hope everyone has and can relate to the post. Like my friend said "remember how we are friends with our high school bullies". It actually is true in my case. Not any more though.
Sometimes I don't worry too much about people following me, I assume they will get bored and leave me alone! :)
I'm friends with everybody, and yes they are all weird too; but that comes with the territory....:).
On FB, I probably 'know' 98% of my friends; on twitter it's probably about 25%. What does that say about me? Who knows, except maybe I'm not that picky. You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose; just never pick your friend's nose, right?
@bdorman264 I have weird ones too; but sharing photos like that and I will rethink!
You put it percentages! I might know fewer on Twitter, and I think only 5% on G+..I wonder why those people keep circling me!
You NEVER pick your friend's nose.... never!
This post is so funny! I can relate. I unfriended some dude who kept posting his drawings of animals having sex! I think he was a friend of a friend of a friend ... It is hard to keep all the social media straight!
@sweepyjean I am glad you can! Oh my! Don't you think...how did I end up adding this one? ;)
Social Media has a mind of its own!
We all have weird friends- because we are just as weird. I am more selective on FB. However, my twitter account is used for business- and, as such, following and being followed is a critical factor in reaching that "tipping point". My LinkedIn account is a cross between my rules for FB and Twitter.
Just leaving a suggestion...
@RAAckermanATCerebrations Everybody has a little abnormal in them. Depends on how you define normality! :)
Glad you dropped your suggestion. I could take a few hints from it.
I hear ya sister! I have a bunch of people on G+ putting me in their circles and I haven't a clue who they are! Recently, I unfollowed someone on Twitter. She's a right-wing extremist who bashes the President relentlessly and her 'facts' are always questionnable. I got tired of it. I think she must've unfollowed me too on twitter or blogger. Fine with me!
@jpage.manuel Politics getting too much to handle? Three more days and things might get back to "normal"... if it ever could!
Haha! This was great fun to read, Hajra! I forgot a moment you aren't in the U.S. and thought you might be unsubscribing because of all the political rhetoric out there. I love my friends and family, but at times they seem so unreasonable!! ;-) Good for you in getting rid of the clutter!
@PeggyLeeHanson I am not in the US but I have a lot of friends who are there and believe me, I am getting too many Obama and Romney updates on my wall. So many that I am actually too interested in the elections this time!
Some people really have no defenses on FB, they forget that the world is watching!
Hey Hajra! Doing a little clean-up are you? Good idea! I think it's sensible to pare down to what you can manage.
I know all my friends on Facebook - it's something I've only really started to use since The TImeline came in. I love it!
Sometimes, when I have time, I look in my Twitter stream for someone who is saying (not quoting) something and reply. It's hard to find someone who's saying something :o As for G+ I haven't used it much. I love the Hangout feature but I don't spend a lot of time there. I wonder if anybody does.
@Lori Looks like I ave to do a lot of cleaning up. Too much noise every where! :)
I love the Timeline but I don't understand why people have to share every single detail of their functioning. It gets on my nerves sometimes. I rarely use Twitter now, only maybe for tweeting links and all.
I wonder what the Google hype was all about. I am sorry to all the G+ lovers, but I don't enjoy it at all!
Hajra, glad to see you back! And I LOVED the title of your post, very intriguing, and then you go and hammer down one point after the other, I will make sure to check FB ...
I do not weed my FB and g+, quantity reigns there, I tried to introduce some quality by using lists on FB (but their constant annoying changes make it nearly impossible) and circles on g+; twitter is different, I regularly check it.
No nude pictures of anything, thank you, what the heck are people thinking? Are they?
I love my weird friends in real life, too!
@Late_Bloomers Glad to be back! I am just so thankful that people remember me when I post!
I am sure you will come up with at least 10 people who you can't place! :) People just get funny on social media, they do anything and everything.
Weirdos in real life are precious!