NOT ANOTHER ONE….
| December 31, 2011 | Posted by Hajra under December, New Year, Old Year, Resolutions, Self |
I hate New Years. There I said it. Now please wipe that shocks from the face and pick up the lower jaw and read on. The reason being the same, I hate changes and New Years is like the biggest change there could ever be. It is bigger than birthdays. Birthdays might be having me sulk for say, one week, but then I get used to the number. But it takes me almost a year to adjust to the New Year and bang, another one comes along.
And to maintain and support my views, I have never “celebrated” it. Call me a sadist, but not one year of all the twenty six years of my life have I voluntarily gone out and “partied” and screamed myself hoarse on New Years. I say voluntarily because I can’t account for the beginning years of my life. My parent might have dragged me out for a family picnic and the ceremony of the gaping at the fireworks, but that was way before I had a mind of my own.
What New Year Brings:
My biggest enemy: Change. Okay, enough of that change is for good thing. Some changes aren’t really all that great. Every New Year brings another addition to age. The big 30 is fast approaching! Every 1st of January people drill you about resolutions, which are easier to promise and impossible to be done. Each year seems like an eternity away and by the time we manage to figure something out, somehow it is December already. And each new year you have someone telling you “what happens on the first, will happen the year round, watch out” Ya right, last New Year’s Eve I slept for ten hours straight! That saying didn’t come true.
What this New Year brings:
For those of you uninformed, I left my job recently and am enjoying some time off. So it begins without a job, something I hope will not be affected by the year round jinx thing. I might become 27…. Might because a little optimism never killed anybody; what if time just stops! And my best friend gets married this year, like I needed another reason for the “Have you thought about settling down” conversation. Family, friends and scrutinizing strangers, please feel free to ask me when, how and whom.
A message to 2012:
If the Mayans are to be believed, you are going to destroy. So please be wonderful enough before actually getting into the destruction. And 2011 was brilliant for me, so 2012 you just have to be awesome to beat the crap out of 2011! Try hard!
Anyhow, who am I to sulk, here’s wishing you all a Happy 2012! Let’s hope the Mayans were wrong and 2012 is not as destructive as it sounds! Please feel free to share your resolutions and plans for 2012; I might pester you when you’ll don’t adhere to them!
Hajra-- So happy to know that you're still kvetching ;). I think we may be sisters--albeit living on different continents. I can't stand New Years, too! I feel like as a therapist I should suck it up and get on my merry, but nah...Part of the problem is society's expectations of going all out and partying in the streets as you mentioned. I am paranoid of being in a car from 11:oo a.m. every December 31st through January 2nd. Yes, I know, highly irrational, but New Years Eve is like the one sanctioned holiday to drink and drive in some parts... I'm glad that you're enjoying your time off. Believe me, you're still so young and the possibilities are endless. Here's to a (crappy for us ;)) New Year. May we be connected in our holiday sulking throughout 2012!
Hey Linda, I will be kvetching for a long time! Let's see how far it takes me :) Ok, yes, me might be soul sisters! I don't understand the concept of bringing in the year with all that jazz. Treat it like another day and it will treat you back just fine! I hope my age isn't a deterrent to possibilities; I see people so much more younger and doing so much that it might be a little intimidating at times. Yes, here's to a crappy for us New Year! We will be connected!
Hey Muriel, No you can wish me; I hope the wishes work! Many people say that life starts at 30, I hope mine is on the right track so my 30s might be awesome! :) Resolutions are tough to keep up until you decide to actually vow to keep something. Losing weight has been the toughest resolution to keep! I am actually joining a new job soon. Though it isn't a corporate set up per se, it promises to grill me anyhow! Yes, I am happy after I left that. So, yes I am enjoying it! Waiting to read more about your Dubai trip!
Change is good, it helps keep people adapting and not becoming complacent. Some changes of course are less than desirable. Four years ago I was bummed about reaching 30 and my wife had the same stress over being "30" when she reached it last year. Age is just a number, meaningless unless you let it be more.
Hey Justin, Age indeed is a number, the whole issue remains of how ready are we to accept the changes that might come along with change! And that becomes a tough thing for someone like me who winces at the mention of change!
Hi Hajra! Like you, I hate the coming of the new year. I think it's just so anti climactic (after the joys of Christmas and waiting for it the entire year) and I am not a believer in resolutions myself. Though I know it's like a reset button to many which in a way can be good, it's precisely for that reason that I think I'm not too crazy about it. It's like all of a sudden, people are thrust into 'normalcy' again and the celebrations and smiles and excitement are all gone. Can't we just have November - December all year long? (I say November cos that's my birth month, hehehe...)
Hey Joy, I ain't a believer of resolutions too. Not only because I can't keep them, but also because I believe if we want to change something, we don't have to wait for a new year for that! Oh, I wouldn't want my birthday month any way. I hate getting old :(
My days of partying on NYE are long over. We went out for a quiet dinner, came home and watched the ball drop and that was that. Change can definitely be scary, and I often quote Homer Simpson when this subject comes up: "change...bad" ha. But even tho a new year puts me that much closer to the dreaded 50 (46 on the 16th), a new year brings with it new opportunities so I say, bring it on!
Hey Lalia, That was a nice way to begin new year. Smooth! I love Homer Simpson, he seems to be a mind reader! I like the sound of opportunities, yes, bring them on!
I can relate to you a little here, Hajra! =) For me, it's about avoiding the pressure of needing to change. =P And I know there's tons I need to work on as a human being! =) At the same time, I'm often excited by change and all the unpredictable wonderfulness that may happen to me this year that I would have never expected! =) That's how I want to enter the new year! =) Loved these reflections, friend!
Hey Samantha, I was wondering where you were but yay for stopping by! You are just wonderful as a human being, we all tend to resist change but that's just a part of being used to who we are and we tend to get used to the current pattern of how things are going; we feel comfortable and it always is tough to move out of the comfort zone when change arrives! I am hoping to be more positive about change this year! Let's hope for the best as always! Thanks for stopping by sweetie; hope all is well!
If you ask me, I seriously haven't met anyone who is in love with change. Though everyone wants to 'change' some or other things in their lives or in this world, I am sure deep down everyone fears change..:) And yes New Year, I personally do consider 'it as just another day'...! Does it really make any difference? I don't know, I haven't seen anything noteworthy... :)
Hey Nishana, Change doesn't have much fans around eh? Sorry change, but we all seem to have a certain dislike for you. Change is constant and maybe that's why we hate it so much! New Year is just another day, but all the more gives us a reason to look forward to something bright and beautiful always! Thanks for stopping by! :)
Hello again, Hajra! I haven't been here for a while and I have to agree - it's nice to see that nothing has changed around here! Happy New Year. I look forward to another fun year of blogging together.
Hey Kara, Thanks so much for stopping by! I have missed you :) Nothing does change much around here, I stay the kvetcher I am. I look forward to being at your blog!
Some Change ... is actually a good thing only if you see it that way. But I know how you feel Hajra as I am not a huge fan of the big parties, blowing those horns, wearing those crazy glasses and figuring out who is not going to drink so they can drive everyone home! BUT for me, change usually seems to be a good thing .... because I let it. Even if my life is 'changed' by things I can't control, I have been wired to always look at the positive side of it. Not that liking change is being a good thing or even being normal, because I don't think I am. I believe if 'you go with it' then life seems to be good. Even during those times when I thought it was all doom and gloom, I remember my dad telling me, 'tomorrow is another day, so today just smile'! So smile Hajra because I can hear your positive outlook - make every day the best ever! Happy New Year!!
Ok, if I ever went to those parties, I would drive everyone home...I don't drink :( Change is good, but the whole point is that I might take time adjusting to it. Good change is always welcome, but mentally I try to have my set ways and am used to the "older" patterns when it comes to life. I might need to break off it more often. Thanks for the lovely wishes! Hope you have a wonderful year to look forward to!
You make me laugh you 26 yr old worrying about birthdays; did I tell you I had a grandmother who lived to be 102? If the Mayan's are correct, then I'm going out at Mach IV like my hair is on fire. Speaking of Mayan's; if you get the History Channel, check out their piece on the 'lost civilization'. Can you say alien influence..........just sayin', it sure makes some of those pyramid pieces seem much more plausible. Ok, don't let me scare you off with alien talk; but I'll just say I will keep an open mind on that matter. I did have a resolution, but I can't think of it now; that has a great chance of success, huh? Most of my relationship, business and fitness 'to-do's' are a continual process for me so I don't feel like I have to have a line drawn in the sand to start from. Having said that though, I do expect 2012 to be fun and prosperous. Good luck on deciding what you want to be when you grow up, it will all work out for you. Happy New Year in a non-celebratory way.........:)
It's just that my 17 year old impression of myself as a 26 year old is totally different so I am kind of disappointed! Will see that History Channel thing you talk about; let's see what the Mayans are really up to? And whether they do scare us out. See, it only the 2nd and you can't remember your resolution... well, who was that talking about sanity on their latest post? I hope I make up my mind...I still am growing up!
I always celebrate on NYE, seeing as it's my brother birthday. I for one and glad to see the tail end of 2011, but have a hollowness in my stomach at the thought of what 2012 has in store. Everyone has such great expectations for me, and I know I need to change a whole lot more this year - as well as the job (again) - but I'm terrified as I sit here. I just want to finally do what I love for real...Please let this be the year. All the best to you my dear. You deserve great things.
Hey Janine, There is lovely things to come across your way. You just have been waiting for it and yes, it might come soon. Good, you do have a reason to celebrate the first day of the year so that must be such a refreshing start to it! It will be this year!
Hi Hajra, I finally had the courage (or something similar) to uninvite myself from a New Year Eve's dinner and was asleep by 9 last night. I feel so good about it. And Chica, my dog, always out of her mind with fear with all the noise of the fireworks had me to cuddle her. Time is relative, resolutions are fickle, predictions - well, we have read and seen so many. And what about change? I used to hate routine, so I was on a first name basis with change, looking at it as bringing along chances and opportunities (does not apply for all the changes FB is making!). A healthy balance of the two might be the answer. Here's to an awesome 2012 with wonderful chances and opportunities for you!
At 9..no I stayed up because the fireworks would wake me up anyway. Good for Chica too! Change might be nice but somehow it takes me time to get used to it. Thanks for the lovely comment; it surely had me thinking! And good for you you got that sleep! What better than sleep to begin the new year with. I am jealous :)
Hajra- I understand where you are coming from. FWIW, 27 was one of the best years of my life- maybe it will be for you too. You are probably asleep now, but if not I hope that your NYE is great.
Hey Jack, I was sleeping then...yes! But on new years went with mom and dad visiting an old city! I hope 27 is as wonderful as it was for you... I thought getting older was life getting tougher! Thanks a lot!
I am never good with the "English" calendar. i know my calendar back and forth. But, the English one. feh! And, it takes me until Lincoln's Birthday (12 Feb) to finally get the year right! My bank hates me for that! To 2012- a year to be distinguished and remembered!
I have the Islamic calendar to follow too, and the new year for us technically started long back so there goes! I hope 2012 is distinguishable as it sounds and all for good reasons!
Hajra, there is only today. A new year changes nothing unless you choose to see it as such. There is no change only choice so choose today to be the best you ever and tomorrow - it will be whatever it is.
I so agree with you. Change is everyday and it might be when you think you are ready for it!
I just posted my own entry on a very similar topic. I think self-reflection once a year at the "end" of a year is nonsense. We must look inward and continue to clarify our goals, create new steps to making our dreams happen...not just every 365 days. That's why I choose to dance every New Year's...we dance, we stop one minute to midnight, count down, balloons drop and then we keep dancing...no Auld Ang Syne sniffling or regrets...just more doing what we love to do. Happy New Year, Hajra...wishing you the BEST changes with the greatest ease in 2012!
Thanks Tambre for such lovely motivating words! I will check out your blog now for your latest post! Self reflection and change is an on going process and it can happen every time we realize we need it or should go for it rather than wait the whole year! Happy New Year to you too! Hope the new year is blessed with everything wonderful for you! :)
Lol! That's why people party and get drunk on New Year's Eve, to ease into the scary unknown. Make a resolution that next year you will bring in the new year partying! ;p
Maybe I should do that to scare away the unknown.. though I don't drink; so the numbing effect will be lost! How did you celebrate?